The connection between you and me

Share an interesting read from a friend of mine:
U feel this way dont u?
"I have the same fear, that if I'm not the caller, the texter, the writer, the voicemail-leaver, the Facebooker, the blogger, there would be silence.
I worry that friends don't think I'm worth the effort. Even the connections I feel when writing here are something I need -- to feel that there are people out there that know that I'm here. Alone. Hoping that they are out there. That's why I do all of those things -- to feel connected. Because I'm always afraid that those real-world connections are too fragile. That if I stopped to take a breath, I would see that they are all much more transient than I can stand to think about."

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Hmm... an interesting read indeed. Your friend speaks what I believe the majority of what people are quietly keeping to themselves with and they do it all but for one purpose only... that is the longingness for acceptance. Just to share a bit, a very good friend of mine once told me a long time ago that no matter where we go or end up with, no matter who we rub our shoulders or shake our hands with, we can never truly be able to please everybody even if it's our best intentions or capabilities to do so for them. We can never truly be people-pleasers because we know deep down that these "people" will never show us the same response we hope would reciprocate to our own expectations of them. Thus, this is where disappointment, denial and heck, even fear of rejection comes from. The need to get the approval from people, the sense of belongingness, the hopefulness of getting a thumbs-up from your significant others to say that you did a good job, have out-prioritized so much that we lost sight on the important things that truly matter in life. We get so engrossed trying to tighten knots around people whom we think are important and would bring change, that we think the moment we stop to take a breather as your friend had said, everything would just stop... making your efforts seem pitiful and a waste. That is why, we never stop doing the things your friend had mentioned. Don't get me wrong though, am not saying (s)he is wrong, am not saying anybody is wrong... all in all, it comes to your perception of how you view life to be and how you wanna lead in it. If we can learn to accept that we cannot truly please everybody and should just focus inward and focus on your own happiness; satisfying yourself, I think it is only then we will stop thinking about such things and can truly feel at ease. Of course, am not saying you should abandon everything, haha heck no. But so long as one remembers that out of the things that you do; whether it be by yourself or with people, your happiness and self take first priority... everything else follows after. In my opinion, it is only then shall you find the rest you need without fear of having such thoughts ever again